Don’t Save Things for Special Occasions (Why I’ve Been AWOL)

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For anyone who was wondering, I’m not dead. It’s been about three weeks since I’ve posted to YouTube or Lover’s Quarrel. That’s pretty much the norm for YouTube, but unheard of on Lover’s Quarrel, where I post weekly. 

This video is essentially to explain why I’ve been gone so long. 

For the last week of August and the first week of September, I was in Maine to visit friends and family, and to deal with personal stuff, which includes, but is not limited to, cleaning out my childhood bedroom. 

For most people, cleaning a room isn’t a big deal. But when it’s a hoarder’s room that’s infested by mice, rats, and squirrels, then it’s definitely a big deal. 

I’m not going to get into how the rodent problem got as bad as it did because frankly, it’s not my story to tell. Just know that the house is now unlivable and rodents are evil. You know that scene in Cinderella when the mice make her dress? That dress has rodent poop sewn into it. Disney will never convince me otherwise.

I ended up saving a lot of things, though, including my diaries, my flute, and about four totes worth of books. I saved this teapot, too. Don’t worry, though, I washed this thing like three times before using it. 

The thing is, because of time constraints, I’ll never set foot in that room again, and most of my stuff is still in there. Most likely, all of it will end up in the trash. And I honestly don’t know most of the stuff that I lost because I didn’t have time to look through it all. I do know that I lost over 200 books, though. I took pictures of all the books that I could find so I could buy replacements later, but some of the pictures were out of focus and I can’t make out the titles, so there are six or seven books that are just lost. 

So that really sucked. But I’m kind of glad it happened because I’m definitely a hoarder, and I hadn’t actually accepted that, but it’s pretty hard to deny it now. Now that I know my own hoarding tendencies, it’ll be easier to get rid of them, and hopefully before I get my own house. 

One of my biggest problems is that I tend to save things for special occasions. Like, I have twenty bottles of lotion and 30 containers of tea that I just don’t use because I was saving them for special occasions.

I don’t have special occasions. 

Like, the tea I’m drinking now is organic peach ginger green tea. Super fancy, right? I was saving this tea for a morning when I could really enjoy it. This would be after yoga, sitting in a chair and sipping it mindfully while listening to a lightning storm or some shit. That never would have happened, mostly because I don’t do yoga in the morning. I do yoga mid-afternoon when I’m procrastinating homework. 

I didn’t use the lotion because I thought it was a waste if I used it when I wasn’t going out. Which is bullshit. I have it because I like the scent, not because other people liked the scent. So what should it matter if other people smell it or not? 

So, I’m done saving shit for special occasions. Because I had to throw out over a hundred dollar’s worth of tea and beauty products that hadn’t made it down to Florida, and I’d rather not do that again. 

I am, however, going to buy most of the books I’ve lost. It’ll be a few years before I do because I want shelves for them all. I also want to buy all 200 of them through Indiebound so I can support locally owned bookstores in a big way.

 Suck it, Amazon. 

My biggest takeaways from this were, one, don’t take a rodent problem lightly. Traps aren’t enough, and it’s probably a good idea to consult an exterminator. Also, if you’ve had a rodent problem in the past, make sure you clean everything. Just douse your house in disinfectant and then Febreeze your life because it turns out the scent of rodents will attract more rodents because Mother Nature can be a bitch. 

The second takeaway is don’t save things for special occasions. Just don’t. Use your fancy dishes, light those pretty candles, and drink that expensive tea because it really sucks when shit gets ruined before you use it. 

I really appreciate you taking the time to watch the video all the way through and I would love it if you left a comment below. I’ll give all commenters individual shoutouts in my next video, even if you say something totally random. Like pineapple. Actually, please say pineapple in the comments to confuse everyone who didn’t watch the video all the way. That would be fantastic. 

And as always, have a good day, everyone and remember to shop local, shop indie, and read for a better world. Bye!